Posted by: G-AZZI | March 22, 2012

mother’s day

Yesterday was Mother’s Day. On Mother’s Day, we celebrate all the great women dedicating their lives to the their children, to make sure they are brought up well, putting in all the efforts within their power to support us.

And on that day, I couldn’t help but think of all the mothers, especially those in our culture, who have had to deal with their children’s homosexuality/ transsexuality…

It is much harder for our mothers to deal with our homosexuality than it is for us. WE know who we are, and we realize that we are brought up in a society with a low level of understanding of homosexuality. The impacts of a highly homophobic society and media are within us as we struggle to accept ourselves and gradually make peace with who we are despite all the arguments we face.

This is not the case for our mothers: when we come out to them, they tend to go straight into that same closet we came out of. Now they have to go through the same process on their own, except that it is harder for them since the concept is completely strange to them.

We live in a society where women are underestimated. We live in society that teaches women that their greatest achievement is raising a child and raising that child well. Learning that your son is gay with all the misconceptions that society has taught you means that your entire life is a failure.

It takes a lot of courage to overcome this shock. It takes a lot of effort to learn more, understand better, and accept the fact that your son or daughter is gay. I believe that only great women can bring themselves to deal with that.

Some years ago, I worked with Rasha Moumneh, great feminist activist and friend, on “Ohibbuhum wa Lakin,” a guide for parents of gay and lesbian individuals. It was one of the most exciting experiences of my life, because I was blessed to meet many of these great women.

To these special women, I would like to express my admiration. Whatever your questions and concerns were, you all came to the same conclusion: “We love our kids and their happiness is what is more important to us.”

You all came from different backgrounds, different religions, different social classes… Some of you were religious and conservatives, others were liberals, but you all showed the same courage and love for your children.

I wish I could publish your photos as my all-time heroes, but I know that society will not see you as heroes just yet.

I do believe, however, that I most probably speak for a majority when I say that you definitely are the greatest heroes for us, your sons and your daughters.

To my mother, and to all the great mothers of LGBT sons and daughters, I hope you had a happy mother’s day, and will continue to have warm years to come surrounded by your children in whose lives you’ve made an indescribably positive impact.

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Responses

  1. All the more reason not to come out to my mother. 🙂

  2. This post needs to be translated to Arabic and spread. It is very touching. Thank you for writing.

  3. Amazing post, it reminded me of my mother, “when we come out to them, they tend to go straight into that same closet we came out of”

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