Posted by: G-AZZI | November 5, 2010

Tips for a perfect body

Going to the gym or practicing any sport is always a pleasant experience. I personally go to the gym three times a week religiously, not only because my doctor recommended it, but also because I am convinced that my body deserves a break from pollution, junk food, alcohol and cigarettes.

Exercising releases toxins from your body through sweating, and it also alleviates stress, and makes you a happier person due to the release of endorphins.

I never expected the gym, however, to also be a dangerous and deadly place.

Earlier this year a beautiful and sweet man, Samer Elias, died from a growth hormone overdose, leaving all his friends and family devastated. Samer was a model and obviously did not need steroids to look like “the guys in magazines;” he was already one of them. In his eyes, though, he was not “perfect” enough.

I can cite several examples of gay men and women putting their life in danger and jeopardizing their health in order to fit a certain norm of beauty.

When did things start going this wrong in the gay community? Weren’t we fighting to be accepted the way we are without any judgment? Didn’t we reject society’s gender roles and the dress codes and behavior it imposed on us?

It has become a commonplace occurrence for young gay people to experience social anxiety and self-hating when in gay bars, the same emotions they would feel within a homophobic group, but for different reasons.

Hating yourself because of the way you look is just as bad as internalized homophobia. Emphasizing physical looks and discriminating against those who do not fit a certain form of commercial beauty is as bad as the discrimination we face in our daily life for being gay.

Let’s remember our slogans. Let us celebrate diversity. We come in different forms and shapes; as a matter of fact, the perfect body exists only in our head: people are naturally attracted to different body shapes and forms, no matter how we look there are always people who will find us attractive.

It is our obligation as gay activists, businesses and media to fight distorted body image issues in the same manner that we fight homophobia. Gay magazines should stop bombarding the community with impossibly high standards of beauty (which are generally of Photoshopped models).

While it is important for each and every person to exercise and eat well, the motivation behind doing so should be your health and not the fashion magazine you bought yesterday.

PS: Muscular guys, PLEASE buy bigger sized shirts, you will be able to breathe normally without the buttons popping off the shirt (I had to say it).



  1. Stereotyping muscular men is also unacceptable. I understand it is a thin line between fighting for the right of people to look the way they can or want not the way they should, and between demonizing stereotypically-good-looking stereotypically-well-built people. I like your piece otherwise and think it is important we start raising awareness about falling into media propagated looks and out of healthy ones.

  2. Am so glad u finally created this blog. And even gladder (does it work in english?? 😛 ) that u brought up this subject. I don’t think u are stereotyping muscular man, i just recognize u own sense of humor. 🙂

  3. Very Very Truw. No matter how you look, the whole world will not universally like or hate you. There’s always a different opinion. As for me, I have my tastes, and I only discriminate with Lust…

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